Background on Adult Parenting...
When I decided I wanted to research and eventually write a book about building a great relationship as parent and adult child, my goal was to learn from people in as many life situations as possible.
I talked to dozens of parents, moms, and dads, who had children from college ages to "kids" in their 50s. The people I spoke to live in various regions of the United States and from other parts of the world. Some of them are ministry leaders, and many are not. Some have been married a long time, and some are single parents. Some of them are my friends, and some of them are people I have never met before. Sometimes a name was suggested to me, but I didn't let anyone know if I contacted that person or not. I searched Facebook for some ideas of who to talk to. I looked at church directories for other resources.
In the same way, the "children" I spoke to range in age from late teens through the late 50s. They live all over the world. Sometimes I also talked to their parents and sometimes I didn't. I never told any of them who I spoke to. I promised everyone that I would never reveal my sources. Not even my husband knows who I interviewed unless he was involved in the conversation.
I believe we have so much to learn from each other. It doesn't matter "who" we are. We have learned great lessons and have become competent to help and instruct one another. I learned some of the best practices and ideas from people who assumed they didn't have much to teach.
In this blog, I might change the sex of someone I am talking about or referencing unless it changes the meaning of what I'm relaying. Some people I spoke with have been hurt in the past, and I admire them for being vulnerable and talking to me. You might think I'm talking about you, but I'm probably not. I will combine people's stories and lives. At the same time, I work very hard to make sure I am portraying truth and not making up stories to fit my ideas.
Anything I share about Nick and Josie or Jordan and Kati will be done with their permission.